Another tough day: lost Clyde today
Who knew that you could get so attached to some stray cocker spaniel? Who knew? He was no MENSA candidate — couldn’t fetch a ball; couldn’t run after a Frisbee; couldn’t do much but eat endlessly, and walk through the park. He was terrified of most every loud sound. He smelled pretty funky after only a few days. But wow, did I get attached to him.
I apologize in advance for posting these “dog snapshots”, but you’ve got to suffer thru them. It’s just part of the deal.
I ran upon him, about seven or so years ago in Fort Negley Park. I was there, walking Dottie, my little Blue Heeler, and I watched this guy literally drive up, set him out on the ground, and drive away. Right in front of my eyes. To me, it was inconceivable that a man would do that — I thought it was some Wonderdog, who would walk himself, while the owner went to Burger King or something, and then came back an hour later and picked him up.
But the guy never came back. So now, I’ve got TWO dogs. I threatened to find a home for him, because Cocker Spaniel was not my choice of breed. But I got attached to him immediately. He was a “special needs” dog; the owners had obviously abused him. He’d run from me; not let me near him. Until slowly but surely, after months, he began to trust me.
One day, during the middle of an ad job, he got out of my fence, and disappeared for three days. I was a wreck; going to Kinkos at 3 in the morning, xeroxing signs for telephone poles, and driving the neighborhoods every night after the job ended, looking for him. One day, a woman called me from about two miles away — she’d seen him the day before, she thought. So the next day, I drove every street, and every alley, and then miraculously, there he was, walking down the alley — dirty, tired, and hungry. And not a scratch on him. How he crossed those busy streets without getting hit, I’ll never know.
We went on lots of travels together. The longest was cross-country, from Nashville to Santa Fe, in my old Ford F150 pickup. I built him an elevated stage in the back seat, so he could see out. We stayed for a week, and then drove home. A few weeks ago, I was fearing that we were near the end, so we took him to Seaside, Florida, to see the ocean, before he died. (He was not amused at the sand and the waves, but he did fine. He just stayed under the beach umbrella, with his hat on, and read Faulkner).
About six months ago, he began coughing. (This sounds like some setup to a scene in “An Officer and a Gentleman”, and it kinda is). I took him to this great vet at Hillsboro Animal Clinic, (Dr. Chad Given, awesome vet). He told me that Clyde had an enlarged heart, and it would only get worse. He chased it agressively with five kinds of medicines, but in the end, the fluid just started to build up around his lungs, and yesterday, it got really bad. So today, Dr. Given and an assistant came to my house, and put him to sleep. I gave him a haircut and a bath, to get him ready; not that he cared. But he’d been an awesome dog, and it just seemed right.
It’s been sixteen years since I haven’t had a dog in the house. Tomorrow morning will be very odd — no one to let outside, and no one to make breakfast for.
Tough day.

A Toast to his Good Life. About 3pm yesterday; it was getting so morose that I wanted to set up a happy picture to remember him by. The beer is just a prop -- he did not make me drink it.

This morning, after his bath, right before the vet arrived. He was pretty sedated at this point.

Yesterday afternoon, trying to get a smile out of him.

Clyde in Seaside, a few weeks ago. Obviously just overjoyed at being at the beach.
(Updated, after finding a couple of frames on a hard drive):

Sorry Mark…
So sorry to hear of your loss. Godspeed, Clyde.
Mark,
I can actually say I know what you went through. This past Monday the Vet told us that our 12 year old chocolate Lab’s kidney’s are failing and there’s nothing we can do about it. She’s been the best dog any family could ever have – she gladly lets the neighbor girls hold tea parties on her while she’s napping on the floor. Monday we also found out that our other dog (a pound rescue) that hasn’t been sick a day for the past 10 years has two lumps that the Vet thinks are probably cancer. So, we might be dogless soon too.
This sucks – there’s no better way to describe it. Hopefully, after a while another four legged companion will select you to share its life with for a few years.
Richard
quoting Richard Cooke: “she gladly lets the neighbor girls hold tea parties on her while she’s napping on the floor. “:
Wow, what a great mental image I get in my mind, when I read that sentence — what a photograph that would be — GO SHOOT IT.
I’m really sorry Mark.
It’s something else how we love them but I know it’s because of their unconditional love. You’ll catch him on the other side of the bridge and he was VERY lucky to have you.
wow – you are a great dog owner, mark – i am so sorry for your loss. I am in Poland now and my mom came up to take care of my dog (an english cocker spaniel, a breed i discovered after showing disdain to my beloved’s idea of a good apt dog: the american cocker – viva la difference, and I have to say Clyde looks more english than american cocker , but i digress) as Mom is driving away with the beloved beast I am crying – CRYING – pathetically – whilst watching him drive away. For one week! All I’m saying is that I feel FEEL for you and your empty house tomorrow. They are such amazing creatures – and we’re lucky to have each other, but man it sucks when they are gone. Thanks for the pictures – he looked like a great sidekick.
I’m sorry Mark. I know this is hard and well I think you were lucky to have one another. I’m sure he appreciated all the little details you did for him today. He was adorable.
I know the feeling. And I know that doesn’t help.
You saved Clyde’s life in more ways than you will ever know and the haircut and bath that he didn’t much care about, gave him the dignified farewell that he so very much deserved.
Great pictures and a great story as well.
Blessings,
Matthew
Hey Mark,
Really sorry to hear this…
You’re an awesome guy for taking him in!
Clyde was definitely blessed to have had you in his life.
Feel Better,
Ed
So sad…I remember a night at your house, eating pizza while Clyde sat next to us passing gas non-stop…ahhhh, memories. I’m so sorry for your loss. Two of my cats are thirteen years old now and starting to show wear and tear…both have kidney disease. I am going to be broken when something happens to them…my heart is just torn up for you.
so sorry to hear about the loss of your friend! such wonderful years and memories you two shared together. wishing you strength and friendship today. thank you for sharing clyde with us.
deb
Mark, I’m so sorry. It is a terrible thing to lose someone who means so much. My dear and ancient cat has been gone for about 5 years and I’m just now wondering if I’m ready to get another one. All that love, all those meds.
Much love to you, Mark.
Beth Lee
Tuck
Sorry to hear this.
C
Wonderful tribute, Mark. You were fortunate to have each other.
SK
I am still a mess, a day later. Look how damn HAPPY he looks in that top picture, with the beer! (The pictures hide the fact that he was constantly coughing near the end, trying to clear the fluid from around his heart, but boy he looks SO happy in that top photo).
Was so intense to lay there on the floor with him, and wait for the second shot to take effect, and for the heart and the breathing to stop. And then to wrap his limp little body up in the blanket and carry him to the truck, for cremation. Like a little baby.
I cannot *imagine* having a sick child. If a dog does that to you, how does anyone deal with sickness in a child?
mark, what can i say sorry just doesnt seem enough. i lost my best friend about 6 months ago and understand how you feel. to this day when calling my two dogs i still call her name when taking them outside. time will help. hang in there!
Mark,
I am so sorry.
Phil
Mark,
Man it’s rough loosing a dog……. calling the vet, that’s the toughest of all, sorry for your loss mate!
On a side note. I used to see this biker gang up here in Alaska. One bloke had this really cool Chow, all dressed up, googles, leather hat & vest riding pillion on his Harley!
A while back I spotted the bike on a local grocery store car park, dog just sitting on the Harley – picture here; He hardly moved at all, I figured the little guy must have been breathing in all those *emissions* if you know what I mean!
So now I have a few framed prints around town with instructions to give them to the biker if he ever turns up again.
Funny thing though, being a dog lover too, I cannot get this thought out of my head:
No matter how rough this group of bikers may appear to the folks they pass on the highway, this guy, the dog owner, he must really love that cool little leather clad Chow!
I’ll be looking out for the bikers again this year – hopefully I can give them my picture!
Cheers,
Chris
I’m feeling for you…
I’m sorry Mark.
Very good idea to make happy photos. It seems it would ease the pain of letting him go.
Clyde is so patient with you and all your picture taking. Isn’t it wonderful how loving and giving our pets are right up until they have to leave us?
Hey Mark-
Really sorry to hear about Clyde…and so soon after Dottie. Looks like his was a life well-lived. Hope you will keep your eyes open for another dog to happen to you.
Jeff
hugs Mark. Clyde looks like such a sweetie. You are such a great doggie dad!
So sorry to hear of your loss Mark. You gave him a great lease of life.
J
All I can say is sorry for the loss. It’s amazing how attached we get, good friends are tough to find but it’s a blessing to have had them.
His hair is so beautiful in the black and white. He looks like an angel.
I can’t remember him having that much hair cause you were always
shaving him.
So sorry for your loss, Mark. We just went through the same thing, almost to the letter, with our cat, Pipa, though neither of us was willing to give the details as you have done, too painful. I don’t know if you allow links, but I wrote about it here http://paulhood.blogspot.com/2009/04/pipa-did-not-survive.html and I linked to Sheryl’s blog about it also.
Thank you for being willing to publish your personal photos, too.
Oh, no. Not another pet loss. I am so sorry. Hopefully there will be another Clyde or 2 in need very soon for you to adopt. Big hug, db
>Tomorrow morning will be very odd — no one to let outside, and no one to make breakfast for. Tough day<
Mark: For the second time I’m saddened by your loss.
Stick with doing the kind things that you do for there will be others to let out side and to cook for. Make their lives richer, and in turn they will richen your life. (But hey, I know you know this already.)
Steve
I’m so sorry and I do understand. I lost my Kate last Saturday morning–and I sat by her just as you did. Clyde had the best life he could have had–and I feel the same about my 12 yr. old Kate (a Standard Poodle—we called her our Farm Poodle).
The hardest part was making the decision as to when–hanging on for a few more days–or maybe a week–or let her go in grace as you did Clyde. It has to be tough after losing Dottie so shortly ago. I hope you find another lucky dog to build more memories with. Luckily, I have a 2 yr. old, Molly–who helped make Kate’s last years good years. If you are like me, you won’t be long without—I’ve always felt that when I lose one that finding another to share my life with honors them for the wonderful canine friends they were to me.
Thanks for sharing Clyde’s pictures–and your memories.
Diane
So sorry Mark
Mark, I haven’t been by for a while, and reading this post, well, it made me cry as I’m sure it did other dog lovers. I am going through the same thing with one of my 2 elderly dogs. The enlarged heart, the coughing…the 5 medications. I rushed her to the vet last weekend thinking ‘this is it’. But the vet was in surgery. They did an EKG (didn’t charge me) and one more prescription. So I gathered her up and took her home. Unexpectedly, she is doing better than she has for quite a while. But I know it is probably just a quick rebound before the end. So we are saying our good-byes. There’s never an easy way. I’ve lost several dogs who, like your Dottie, experienced a bad seizure and that surely is upsetting. I don’t want my Nikki to go through that so I’m hoping there will be a sign of some kind that it is time to let her go peacefully. The emptiness when they are gone is the toughest part. I adopted these 2 after losing 2 previous dogs within a month from old age. I couldn’t bear coming home to an empty house with no tail-waggers to greet me. I hope you find another deserving friend like Clyde. You both were very lucky to have each other.
Mark, it’s been awhile since you lost your beautiful boy. I hope you have been able to give a home to another animal in need. You wrote so openly of your loss and you may want to read Mark Doty’s Dog Years. He too writes of the loss of his dogs but with such heart and humor, as you did, that rather than being morose, it is life affirming. Thank you for sharing Clyde with us. May he be reading Faulkner in pet heaven.
Hi Mark,
That is so sad. You write such a lovely story. I love your pictures.
We had a yellow lab for 13 years – Toyah, who I grew up with.
She was a great friend and a loyal family pet. I never heard her howl, but the night my Dad died, she just knew and she went out into the garden and howled. A year later she went for a routine check up at the vets and they discovered she was riddled with cancer and suddenly we lost her. Three years after this I would still call her name if I had crumbs left on the table, so used to having her there. Eventually you get used to not having them around any more, but if you close your eyes and flick through your catalogue of memories you soon realise they stay with you forever.
Toyah was cremated and we scattered her ashes on my Dad’s grave. Rest their beautiful souls. They’ll take good care of Clyde.
Nat
Mark, I don’t know you, but I followed a link to your photos of the Community School outside Atlanta — loved those as well as your advertising images, etc. Decided to check out your blog since I am impressed with your talent and skill, and I find this wonderful and sad story about losing Clyde. Love your sense of humor, and your sense of integrity in doing right by him when you took him in and when you said goodbye. The early photo of him in the bed is beautiful, and the shots at the seaside and with the beer will bring you smiles and fun remembrances of Clyde years from now. Your learning to love a dog that you saved without really choosing him speaks as well for you as a man as your work speaks for you as an artist and photographer.
Carolyn
I never met Clyde and losing a dog is just plain heartbreaking, but having a beer with him hours before you say goodbye. That just makes me smile. Well done, Mark.